Dufftown: More than just the Whiskey Capital Of World
In a quaint village, Dufftown proudly claims the title of the Whisky Capital of the World, the presence of numerous distilleries certainly sets it apart. With a concentration of six distilleries, including renowned names like Glenfiddich, Balvenie, and Mortlach it earns it kudos in the world of spirits. Although a few distilleries have closed and reopened, the legacy of the village remains strong.
For the Love of Whisky (Uisge beatha is the Scottish Gaelic term for ‘water of life)
Whisky is a major draw for visitors to the area, making it a great place to begin exploring. There are plenty of tour options in Dufftown and the surrounding areas. If you have a passion for Whisky and can be flexible with your visit dates, consider attending the Speyside Whisky Festival, typically held at the end of April or the beginning of May. Ensure to book your spot well ahead of time for this popular event.
Sons. Balvenie offers a more comprehensive tour however due to its popularity it’s booked well in advance. On the other hand, Glenfiddich provides great value for money, with a rich history and an in-depth tour that walks visitors through all areas, from the history, wash and tun rooms, still house through to the warehouse. The tour concludes with a tasting of four premium whiskies. While booking online is recommended, a few walk-in spots may be available, but they fill up quickly, so be sure to get there as early in the day as possible. Additionally, Glenfiddich has a charming shop and cafe where visitors can enjoy a drink or relax with a cup of tea and a scone. Book or reserve your tour here.
Speyside Toursprovides walking tours of Dufftown, where you will explore the village, discover the history and stories of the local distilleries, and have the opportunity to sample a few drams along the way. www.speysidetours.co.uk
What to see and do around Dufftown
book here on the Visit Scotland website.
charming spot was set up and funded by a local, with local volunteers pitching in to maintain it annually. It’s a lovely spot to take the children for a stroll, and the Giants Chair walk is a great option for a leisurely walk in fair weather. Fairy Village on Facebook.
Mortlach Church and its Pictish Stones. The optimal time to view the stones is on Sundays when the church is open. Additionally, there is a standing stone in the churchyard. This stone is surrounded by various myths and legends regarding its origin and purpose, though the true history remains uncertain. While the standing stone has weathered over time and lost some of its original markings, the stones inside the church are well-preserved, displaying Pictish symbols of a snake, bull and eagle. The original church is among the oldest Christian sites in North East Scotland, having undergone several extensions and reconstructions. The around around the church was also the site of a significant battle between Malcolm II and the Danes.
Visit the website to learn more.
www.dufftowngolfclub.com
Hiking and Walking in and Around Speyside
Ben Rinnes and the Conval Hills Walks:
Ben Rinnes stands as the tallest hill in the vicinity and requires a short drive to its base for the ascent, this is located just 5 minutes outside Dufftown. On the other hand, the Convals can be accessed from Dufftown, with the path beginning at the rear of the Golf course. For more information on the various walks in the area, a local map is available for download.
Speyside Way is also a popular route in the vicinity, that goes from the Cairngorms down to the Coast, you can walk down the old railway line down to Craigellachie to join up with it. www.speysideway.org
Best Places to Eat
Seven Stills stands out as the top restaurant in the area. It is advisable to book in advance since they have limited operating hours, only during peak seasons. For accurate opening hours and more information, it is recommended to visit their website.
Gathering Cafe: This is over in Aberlour, the coffee and atmosphere are worth the small drive down the road if you want to be comfortable and cosy. www.thegathern.com
Best Places to Stay while in Dufftown
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Hillside Havens: Nestled on the village outskirts, these modern pods offer a private retreat, some even featuring jacuzzis and BBQ facilities. Enjoy stunning views, a countryside atmosphere, and easy access to the village on foot. www.hillsidehavens.com
Great Britain is one of the best places to visit from the comfort of your armchair. Especially in the colder months of the year. When the days are short, the fields are muddy, and the sky is more than 50 shades of grey.
To make up for these dreary months, there have always been copious amounts of tea, humour and creative storytelling to get people through.
A favourite list of books and movies are listed here, divided into the past and present. This way you’ll get a gist of the country as it was, and how it is today. All while allowing you to enjoy the journey from here to there without leaving the comfort of home.
So, let’s get to it, and start with:
The Past: Endless Drama and Intrigue of Kings and Queens
England’s Kings and Queens are tricky to follow, there’s always a I, II, III all the way to VIII fighting someone with a similar name who is equally treacherous. Heads come off more regularly than a visit to London Tower. Making books on the subject a jolly good read. Full of excessive drama, intrigue and best of all they are based on true events.
While your average textbook is as boring as a poke in the eye, writers like Philippa Gregory bring the stories to light in a most novel way (pun intended). Making them easy to read, leaving you on edge of your seat late into the night. Now, there might be an embellishment here and there, yet, Ms Gregory knows her history. My favourites are:
The White Queen: Elizabeth Grey married Edward the IV, against the wishes of his family and the Kingmaker. Not only was she a mere daughter of a knight, but also a widow with two children. Highly unusual and sensational at the time. Yet for many years their marriage was successful. Like most stories about love and power, there’s also plenty of drama. She has a lot of children, including the two Princes, that went missing in the tower. If you prefer to watch it rather than read it, it is also available on DVD.
The White Princess is a follow on about the eldest daughter of the White Queen who was forced to marry Henry VII. The family hoped that the union would bring peace, which it did for some time. She was also the mother of Henry VIII, so the story sets a good background on the Tudor era of England’s History. You can also buy this book in the Cousin’s War Boxsetfor anyone interested in the whole period. The movie is available on DVD.
The Red Queen. Is a part of ‘The Court Tudor series’, this series covers the queens and stories around the Tudors, such as Henry VIII and his many wives. The Red Queen is about his grandmother Margaret Beaufort, who doesn’t often get much attention. Yet, she played quite a significant role and had a strong hand in the upbringing of her son and grandson. She is often believed to be behind the disappearance and likely death of Two young Princes locked in the tower.
Philippa Gregory’s stories are told from a woman’s perspective, which wasn’t a popular angle put forward at the time. Yes, while many women at that time were simply a pawn in a larger game. There were intelligent strategists and survivalists among them and Ms Beaufort was among them.
The Tudors is a suspenseful TV mini-series that is based on the life and a few of the marriages of Henry VIII, as well as the establishment of the Church of England.
A series called ‘The Spanish Princess’ covers the life of Katherine of Aragon, Henry’s first wife. Katherine’s earlier life and first marriage aren’t often written about. She was left in the lurch when her first husband King Arthur died, and her mother the Queen of Spain refused to pay her dowry. It was a tough beginning, without a happily ever after. Yet her courage, grace and character make it a great story.
Daughter of time – Is set in the current day. The story is about a bedridden detective, who decides to uncover the unsolved fate of The two Princes in the tower. His investigation takes him deeper into the life of their uncle, Richard III. You’ll find it presents an interesting hypothesis of what might have happened.
Time Travelling back to England’s Darker Past
There are really more books that cover the United Kingdom’s history than you can read in one lifetime. Obviously, I can’t cover them all, but here are a few of the best:
Books like the ‘Time Travellers Guide to Medieval England’is fabulously funny and take a deep dive into what the era would have been like if you were sent back in time.
The further you travel back in time, the less factual stories become. Earlier tales border on myths and legends of the British Isles. One of my favourites of that period is The Sevenwaters series by Julliet Marillier. Who does a brilliant job of bringing stories back to life and weaving in an old myth or two at the same time.
Another author that can be harder to find as they are often out of print is Morgan Llewelyn. She brings stories of Ancient Albion and Ireland to life. I especially enjoy The Bard and The Druid.
If this is an era that rocks your boat, there is also a new TV series that looks at this period called Britannia. While there aren’t any poetic bards, it does have the Celts, druids, magic and a few gnarly Romans. The period is the time of the first Roman invasion around 43AD. You can find it on Sky TV or Amazon Prime.
On-Screen Period dramas that Whisk you back through Time
Downtown Abbey. Resistant at first, as the show seems a bit cliché, in all honestly it is well worth watching. A great cast of actors and characters brings this whole period drama to life. It has the right amount of humour, warmth and scheming to keep you captivated all the way through to the end. Even the latest box office movie of the same name is a keeper.
Others that are also set in the period are Poldark, which takes you through the challenges of rural life in Cornwall. The series is based on the famous Poldark books by Winston Graham.
Outlander, will take you North and up into Scotland, and is a period drama with a modern twist. Outlander is set in Jacobian times, and despite the love, and drama of this wartime era. It is the landscape and its timeless features that really steals the scene.
For any of those out there who enjoy a bit of comical black wit, on which English humour is based. Then you’ll love the Black Adder TV series. Written by Ben Elton and staring Rowan Atkinson and many of the cast of the equally funny and famous Monty Python movies, it is the most comical view of England’s history.
Dare to be wildis another perfect example. Based on true events, it contains a bit of romance, yet it is mostly about bringing a bit of wild nature back into English gardens. It’s a story of a young gardener’s dream to exhibit in the Chelsea flower show. It shows the English countryside and its magical landscapes in a most poetic light.
Lad, A Yorkshire Story – Such a touching story about life and death. It’s often the ordinary everyday moments that become extraordinary. Most of us are touched by death, family issues and struggles. It’s in these mundane moments we have the opportunity to uncover who we truly are.
This story is just that, every day that reaches out and touches us profoundly. It’s a moving story, based on true events around the death of a boy’s father and the effect it has on the family.
Johnny English – is what’s needed after a serious movie. Good ‘ole Rowan Atkinson, of Mr Beam fame, is a spy, and offers the is the best way to laugh off any and all sadness. Of course, the movie captures everything that is so quintessentially British and worth laughing at.
Finding your feet – The ideal feel-good movie. It’s a view into everyday life in the UK, with a great acting cast of characters. It takes you through life turned upside down by events, the break up of a marriage, family and the magic that can come out of chaos.
It portrays hidden parts of London we don’t often see on the big screen. Yes, you can swim in the ponds at Hampstead Heath and live on a canal boat. There are unknown suburbs, all worth a gander should you ever visit the city.
Miss potter –We all know the darling drawings by Beatrix potter but few of us know the author. This movie looks at how it all started out for Beatrix and how her little animals came to life.
It was quite rare at the time for women to have such freedom to create. While she did eventually marry it wasn’t until she was much older. Overall its a great story of how nature can inspire us in the most charming of ways.
Anonymous – Who doesn’t love a conspiracy theory? This one takes us on a deep dive into who the real Shakespeare might have been. Putting forth the most popular option of Edward de Vere, the Earl of Oxford.
Super actors really bring this movie to life and give us plenty of food for thought.
Personally, I am a fan of thinking it might it have been either Mary Sidney or Amelia Bassano Lanier. Both of whom are better contenders than the Bard of Stratford.
If you are a Shakespeare fan, Upstart Crow, is a comical series made in the same vein as Black Adder and is a very funny view into what the real Shakespeare may have been like.
Jam and Jerusalem – This isn’t a very well-known series, but it should be. It’s a riot a comical take on country life written by Jennifer Saunders. Pure British humour at its best.
Timeless books about England. Warning: May increase the desire to travel
So many incredible writers come from England and weave wordy magic around this fair Isle of Albion. The top of the list are:
An old classic is pretty much as it sounds. A humble, honest and poignant view into the life simple life of a shepherd set in one of the most stunning parts of the country: The Lake District.
A short but poetic book about the Cairngorm mountains in Scotland. It captures so beautifully the author’s love for and relationship with them. The Living Mountain is a magical book written about and for nature.
“So simply to look on anything, such as a mountain, with the love that penetrates to its essence, is to widen the domain of being in the vastness of non-being. Man has no other reason for his existence.”
Another bookshelf classic, it covers the tale of Katharine and her partner buying a croft (small countryside house) in the Scottish Highlands. It covers the simple, day-by-day challenges of life without luxury. Yet it does so in the purest form.
It is both romantic and honest in its simplicity and yet shows us that living a modest rural life can have more bite than a Rhodesian ridge-back with rabies.
Obviously, this lifestyle isn’t for everyone, which is why reading about it and experiencing it from your armchair is all the more entertaining.
Robert McFarlane’s books are spellbinding, they’ll carry you through highways, byways and countryside paths, stories and memories. So lividly engaging you may confuse their reading with your own future memories of adventures yet to come.
I started copying down phrases that resonated with me, only to realise I was copying the whole book, word for word. Eventually, I simply bought a copy for myself. I will inspire a long list of places to see and visit. It motivates us to a deeper exploration of the countryside. Leading to the article on why ‘The Best way to see Britain in on Foot’.
From here to there and everywhere, Get down, get cosy…
Kick back with your favourite beverage of cocoa or wine. Make popcorn, get comfortable and let yourself be transported both near and far by the greatest storytellers this country has ever known.
This fair land of Albion is worth visiting anytime from the comfort of your armchair, or via plane, train or boat.
There are many ways for us to travel in this modern day and age. Yet, a timelessness lives here in Britain, where the old ways and new ways collide.
Here in the United Kingdom modern modes of transport are a means of getting from A to B, these are not my preferred form of getting around. Driving is hectic, busy and stressful. Trains are expensive, overloaded and rarely on time. While buses are affordable, they also crawl through the countryside at a snail’s pace and rarely connect through to, or stop at any worthy destination.
Biking is another option but needs to be undertaken at your own risk, health and accident insurance is advised. Yet, amongst all the pitfalls of modern travel, there seems to be an overwhelming trend during the weekend for walking/ hiking.
*Disclaimer: I see hiking and walking as the same thing given there are not excessively large mountains, so I’m going to use the word walking to cover them both.
People in England have The right to roam
England is ideal for walkers. Endless green valleys, sloping hills, roving rivers and pockets of forests beckon anyone ready for some greenery and fresh air. Walkers also benefit from the Rights of way act, that ‘The right to roam’.
This means that the general public may access land without the use of paths.
Note: Although private areas do exist, you can find them on maps via Natural England. Landlords of private property will in many cases put up a notice; Private land, or Do not trespass – so be sure to respect their wishes if you do come across these signs.
On the rights of way paths, farmers and landowners are asked not to obstruct the path or block access to it. Nor should they let aggressive bulls into the field alone. One exception is made for non-dairy breeds, which can be in a field if accompanied by cows. Apparently, the dairy bulls are more aggressive. As many of us might not be able to decipher one breed from another if you see a bull and are worried simply play it safe and find another route.
In return, it is expected that walkers also respect the landowners, and their lands by following the countryside code of conduct. It is generous of farmers to allow the public access to the land that is their means of living.
If you bring your dog, have them on a leash when on farmland with livestock. If concerned there are also plenty of other farms, forests and fields without livestock that you can enjoy.
The Pilgrimage Revival
You may have also noticed a revival in ancient pilgrimages. There have been some great articles published that feature the British Pilgrims’ trust. An organisation that has done a stellar job in the last few years of not only promoting pilgrimages but also organising pilgrimages and bringing ancient pathways back to life for people to enjoy.
One such pathway is aptly named the Pilgrims’ way and will take you from Canterbury to London’s Southwark Cathedral. Travelling in true Pilgrim fashion on foot and staying in wayside houses or churches along the route.
“Pilgrims are poets who create by taking journeys. Niebuhr”
On top of the old Religious Pilgrim routes, there are even more ancient pilgrimages to sacred sites such as Stonehenge, Glastonbury or Standing stones of Avebury.
While not every walk is a pilgrimage, there are many other groups that you can join for a hike or a stroll:
Walking Associations and Groups
Whether you’re a traveller from distant shores, or a local who would like to get out and about more – there are endless walking groups and options here in the UK.
There are also established national and local walking groups, such as the Ramblers. It’s a great way to motivate oneself into doing longer countryside walks – while promoting a good cause.
The Ramblers is a non-profit and as well as receiving a quarterly magazine, maps and free access to lead walks, they actively campaign and support walkers’ interests in England.
Currently, they are in the process of lobbying with landowners and the government, to create the ‘England Coast Path’. Set to open in 2020, it will cover 4.500 km of Britain’s coastline, making it the longest coastal walk in the world.
On top of this, they are putting out a call to members of the public to go through old maps, to locate old pathways, so that they can be noted and reclaimed before the due date in 2026.
More than that though they offer a great range of routes throughout the country via their website or app. You can choose either independent or led walks, short or long, and easy to hard – there really is something to suit everyone.
There is nothing quite like joining a group of like-minded individuals for an afternoon of sturdy walking. You can find them online at Ramblers.org.uk
Well-known routes through the English country
While most everyone has heard of the Camino de Santiago de Compostela, and the Appalachian Trail. Britain also has its fair share of stunning trails, which may not be as famous but thankfully quieter, and equally stunning that you can enjoy if you’d like a walking holiday.
Here are just a few worth mentioning:
Cotswolds Way: This is one of the most picturesque walks. It spans the length of the Cotswolds from North the South. Covering over 100 miles, it snakes along the upper escarpment of the region and passes ancient long burrows and ruins left by prehistoric man. Being in the Cotswold it also passes through quaint villages and runs either to or from Bath, which is one of the most beautiful cities in England.
Hadrian’s Wall: This is the famous wall that the Romans put up in the hope of keeping the unconquered and unruly Scots out. While I like to think of it as ‘The Wall’ from the Game of Thrones, the reality is that it’s not half as high or fearful. Listed as a UNESCO world heritage site, it runs along the thinnest part of England. So, you can make it from the East to the West coast in under 8 days. It’s a trail where you really do follow Romans’ footsteps, passing by historic Roman ruins set amongst the breathtaking countryside.
The Pilgrims Way: This is an old Pilgrimage route, and you can either walk to or from London or Winchester to Canterbury, there are a few options available for the route. Canterbury was an old stopping point for pilgrims on their way to Rome. Back in the day, it was normal for most of people to try to do at least one pilgrimage in their lifetime. In doing so, and by giving alms to the church they felt more likely that they could gain, if not buy a spot in heaven.
While it did fall out of favour for a few centuries thanks to Henry VIII, it is thankfully back in style and much of the old pathways have been given a new life for a new set of walkers and modern pilgrims.
Offa’s Dyke way: Follows most of the border between England and Wales and is named after the Anglo-Saxon king of Mercia. It snakes through the historic Welsh countryside all the way from Chepstow in the South to the Northern shores.
Heart of England Way: This as it sounds leads you through the heart of England and through the West Midlands countryside. It’s about 100 miles long and goes from Milford down to Bourton-on-the-water, one of the Cotswolds’ quaintest if not most popular villages.
You can get booklets and trail passports as well as advice on the route, and places to stay along the way from the National Trail website.
Transformation of Unexpected Pathways
Recently alternative routes are being uncovered. Such as old railway lines and towpaths are easy to walk along and have been revived and lovingly restored and transformed.
Towpaths, for anyone unaware, is the old route that was laid alongside the man-made waterway canals. These were built back in the industrial age before motor cars so that donkeys could pull the narrow boats containing wares through to their final destination.
Canals were eventually replaced with the railway. However, thanks to locals, volunteers and organisations such as the canal and river trust have put in a serious amount of effort to do restoring many canals to their former glory. As a result, the towpaths alongside them offer both picturesque and relatively easy walking paths.
The same is being done with older railway lines that have become overgrown through time. There is a TV show on Channel 5 in England called: Walking lost railways, and a book Lost Railway walks, that highlights them. As such there are also a few websites promoting lost railway routes and sharing them so that we can all enjoy them.
It’s great to see that even an old railway line can be recycled and put to new use.
Benefits of Walking
Yes, England really is the perfect country to explore on foot, but there are a lot of side benefits to doing so. Of course, exercise and an improvement in overall health are a given.
But my favourite benefit is that I am travelling at a pace that is right for me, I can stop, sit or walk fast at whichever point I like. If the view has become exceptionally stunning, you can stand or sit in awe for as long as you like.
It’s flexible so that you can choose a different pathway, or do a circular route a linear route or makes one of your own – there are no time schedules or anything to abide by other than common courtesy and respect for others on the path.
In the meantime, science has proven what many of us already knew spending time in nature, with trees and fresh air has a positive effect on the heart, organs and mental health. This is why the art of forest bathing is so popular in Japan and has been taking off everywhere.
Personally, I believe that spending time outside in nature, in a disconnected world is healing for the body and soul. It leads us to appreciate the world around us, and feel connected.
Appreciating the natural world
Anyone who has spent hours walking through forests, over hills and small creeks can’t help but to spend some of that time in awe of the landscape around them. The birdsong that fills the air, squirrels foraging for nuts.
Red Squirrels are even being re-introduced in areas of Snowdonia in Wales and Caledonia in Scotland. If you have a keen eye you may even spot the elusive badger or friendly otter. Or a peaceful forest floor filled with bluebells or snowdrops.
The change of the season, the fresh air or crystal-clear springs and canal towpaths. It’s as healing as it is magic and touches us as humans deep in the soul of our being.
Protecting that which we love
Once we start to walk more – we can’t help to connect, it brings us back to our natural state being and hence to the natural world around us.
I’ve not yet seen a walker with headphones, they’re too busy listening to the birds, a burbling brook or the rustle of leaves through the trees. They’ll stop to enjoy the views, breathing in the fresh air and reaching a deeper state of calm.
In the pure enjoyment of time spent in nature, we become more naturally inclined to want to protect it, and care for it, as it should be respected and cared for.
You can see this reflected in the number of efforts local walking organisations have to protect these areas and pathways. It’s also why I appreciate upcoming organisations such as Rewilding Europe, Rewilding Britain and the woodland trust.
These types of organisations are going above and beyond to restore ancient woodlands and areas that are safe havens for local wildlife, birds and insects that are so critical to these natural habitats.
It’s scary to think that some countries have no ancient woodland left, the ecological structure that they host so much more than just a selection of trees or a simple place for us to enjoy our daily stroll.
If you have the opportunity to look into them if you are in the UK for a while why not also support them with your time as a volunteer or purchase a membership?
Get your boots on and start walking
If nothing else, your feet are made for walking. Endless pathways that cross the United Kingdom are calling you to walk upon them.
So, let’s get our walking shoes on, and they say in one of my favourite Celtic Proverbs:
“Your feet will bring you to where your heart is”.
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A Guide to Finding Work Abroad
Do you have a dream of moving, working and living abroad just once in this lifetime? Do you question if can you find work abroad? Stumped about where to start looking?
Maybe we can rephrase the question, how much would you really like to make it happen?
The reality is that anything is possible. Where there is a will, there is always a way. Today I’m going to cover what you need to think about, as well as how and where to start finding work abroad.
The good news is that it is never too late to start living and following your dreams.
Before we start: A Quick Reality Check:
It would be naïve to think that moving to a new country doesn’t bring a host of challenges. There can be as many epic failures as there are success stories.
Finding the right job in the right place, like anywhere can be a challenge. While there are countries like Argentina where it can be harder to find work. Companies themselves often prefer to hire locals as it can be a costly and time-consuming process to get a residency for foreigners with little assurance that it will all work out.
Yet, that’s not to say it’s impossible, yes there are obstacles, however, there are also many loopholes and ways around them.
What is possible, realistic and viable
If you have a particularly remote or exotic location in mind, it may be harder unless you are able to work remotely. Which is ideal and the answer for many digital nomads.
As this subject is so well covered online, this post isn’t a guide on becoming a digital nomad.
This is a simple-to-use, practical guide for those that want to find employment abroad. To make it happen you’ll need a bit of energy, effort and willpower. On top of a healthy dose of reality.
First, you need to decide if you want to move to a specific country or job.
For instance, countries such as Australia offer a working holiday visa. Which is available to anyone between 18-30 years old. This visa allows you to travel and work through Australia for a year. During this time you’ll have the right to work anywhere you like, some find office jobs and others work as backpackers picking fruit or bartending in hostels.
This type of visa is much more of a travel experience than a career move.
Working abroad to improve your career options.
There are a lot of careers that value some time spent abroad, architects go to Holland, and a creative designer may spend a year in London at a top advertising agency. This time spent abroad adds credibility and valuable international work experience to your resume.
So have a think about the type of experience and work you’d be looking for. Once you’ve got a clear direction of what you would prefer, you can start preparing to make it a reality.
Preparing before you apply for work
Any planning you do before you go, from studying the language, getting to know the customs, and putting money into a savings account – is going to be useful.
All of it helps you to prepare, and get the ball rolling. An application letter sounds stronger if you can mention that you are learning the language, and are knowledgeable about the culture, reasons for going and expectations while there.
Things to know before you go:
What are the criteria for working in that country and your visa options? Best place to find this is on the government website of the country in their immigration and visas section. Or google working visa for [country of choice].
What type of job opportunities are there? Thankfully again, the internet is a big help here. There are websites that cater to gap year travellers, expat websites and forums. Government and local city websites can be helpful. Research local job sites, and keep in mind they may be in the local language. If you don’t yet speak the local language type the job title or English (or your language) in the search field to see what jobs come up.
International job sites like Monsterboard, experteer and LinkedIn are also worth researching at this preparation stage. Note: This is a good time to set up a LinkedIn profile if you don’t already have one.
What is the cost of living? This can be tricky to uncover as the information might be dated. There are websites that specialize in the cost of living comparisons like Numbeo. Other sites like Expatica a site dedicated to expats, and International Living also have useful guides and information. Again, searching on the internet is an invaluable tool: Cost of living in [country of choice].
What salary do you need to be able to live? Now that you have an idea of the cost of living, it’s advisable to understand what the local salaries are, and what you would need to earn. Countries in the South of Europe are notorious for the high costs of living and low salaries.
If you are planning to backpack around Australia and work as you go the cost of living will be less of a concern as you’ll likely get free accommodation – depending on the job.
What is life like for foreigners there? This investigation can be hit and miss. On expat blogs, the whingers are the ones that complain the loudest. If you look hard and read between the lines, you’ll also find some valuable feedback.
You can review local expat blogs, forums, and meetups or ask your own social circles via-via. It can be good to reach to out someone or get an introduction.
Drop blog writers/ friends of friends that are living in that country an email, most people are happy to help. The more precise questions you ask, the more precise answers you’ll get. It’s always good to get the perspective of someone living there to see what it’s really like.
The answers you get from your research may or may not be what you want to hear. But the reason for doing the research is to 1) manage your expectations. 2) help you to prepare i.e. if there are no English-speaking jobs other than being an English teacher, you’ll know to get your TEFL certification before you go.
What can happen if you are unprepared: many moons ago, I tried to move to China. I didn’t speak the language, there were limited work opportunities and the cultural differences were so big that I knew I’d never adjust. I ran out of money and bailed. It was an epic moving abroad failure. Yet, I also learnt a lot, which is why I now research potential countries and do a dry run before any life-changing moves.
We live and learn, but the better we prepare the more likely we’ll make a success of it. You’ll also find that it helps to inspire and motivate you into taking the plunge.
Thinking out of the box & brainstorming options
The research may have given you some ideas, however, there are moments when that might not be enough. Perhaps you have a country in mind and need a few more options. If so, here is a list of ideas to help you brainstorm the endless possibilities:
Apply for a study visa. One where you can work part-time, or also do an internship?
If you are between 18-30 you may be able to get a working holiday visa.
Do you work for an international company that can expatriate you? If so, start the conversation with your HR department to understand your options and the process.
International NGOs and Non-profits. Local or International Organisations often accept applications and offer training for foreign assignments.
Volunteer abroad. There are companies that charge you to participate – but there are those that are free, or pay a small salary to cover living costs.
Workaway, Helpx has a range of options if you would like to work 5 hours a day, 5 days a week in exchange for food and accommodation. Some may even pay a small wage – depending on the work. You can do almost any type of work from babysitting to farming.
Woofing (work on organic farms), similar to workaway but offers work on organic farms in exchange for food and a place to stay.
Check the website of your own country’s embassy, as they often also have jobs and internships available in their offices abroad.
Local Recruitment agencies – use those that specialise in your industry
Work in the Tourism sector, travel companies are often looking for people that speak different languages – depending on the job, it may also include live-in accommodation
Local job sites
If you are already in the country, ask around, and join networking groups, industry associations and meet-ups.
If you have a university degree you can often get a teaching job, Teaching your language or working as a translator
So, get the sticky notes out, and cover the wall with them. What do you like to do, and what skills do you have? What wouldn’t you do? What is possible in the country your looking to move to?
Where to look for work
Once you’ve narrowed down your options it’s time to actually start finding jobs to apply for. A few of my favourite sites when looking for work abroad that are global are:
There are always local sites, so research what they are, as most local employers will advertise there. You can also make a list of the key international companies in that country and apply via their website directly.
If you are already in the country ask local businesses, check the local papers or recruitment companies: wherever or however locals are looking and finding work.
Applying and getting the job you want
Applying for and getting the job is much more than a numbers game. You are applying and vying against locals who are equally skilled, and easy to interview and employ.
You’ll need to make sure your cover letter stands out as much as your resume does. If you can’t wow them with your experience, make sure you make up for it in enthusiasm.
The best way to make a cover letter stand out is to be authentic and personalise it so that it addresses the job in question and isn’t a copy and paste of another job. Whoever is reading it will know the difference.
Research the company you are applying to. If you are applying for a job as a content specialist but notice they haven’t updated their social media, mention how you could change it. [it goes without saying, do so in a positive way]
Also be aware of their values, mission and how you might be able to make a difference and how you fit into that. What experience do you bring that makes you stand out, and how can you add value?
It’s also a good idea to know what the challenges might be and address them. For instance, if they want someone bi-lingual, mention that you studying are at an intermediate level and are confident it will improve.
If it is a country where you have or a country where you need a working visa – be honest. Otherwise many employees won’t even look at your application. Make it as easy as possible for them to take it through to the next step.
Covering the basics in your cover letter:
Why do you want the job
What you can bring to the table – experience, skills, examples of your successes
Finish strong, and state you will call in the next two weeks to follow up. Request an interview for when you’ll be in the country via skype.
Keep it simple, short, and concise but enthusiastic in a professional manner.
The most important thing once you send off your application is to follow up on it. Most people miss this step, yet the fact that most people don’t call gives you an opportunity to stand out and show that you are serious about the application.
Call if possible, everyone sends emails and they quickly disappear down the queue in someone’s inbox. Calling is nerve-racking, especially if in a foreign language. Be confident, list out your questions beforehand and have them in front of you.
Ask what the timing is, what the process is and when you can expect an answer. If they are friendly, ask if they have everything they need, and if is there anything else they would like to know. Again, it’s an opportunity to stand out, build rapport, and be curious and friendly.
Be tenacious without being a stalker
There can be a fine line between having tenacity and stalking people by calling every day. However, showing enthusiasm and wanting the job is never a bad thing.
I’ve found if you are applying and are visiting the country in a few weeks most potential employers may be open to interviewing you during that time – so it never hurts to ask. It’s also a good excuse to follow up and to call to see what’s possible.
Be sure to keep applying and for suitable jobs, you’ll get a lot of rejections but tweak your applications, get feedback and keep at it.
Going through the interview process
While the first rounds of interviews might be over skype, companies may want the last interview to be in person. So make sure to be flexible on your ability to travel and when you can do so.
Some international companies depending on the size will cover some basic travel costs, smaller companies are less likely to if you are applying for a local contract. So, don’t expect it unless you work in a fairly skilled high-paying niche and it’s an international company.
If you do go for an interview, don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Line up as many interviews as you can before you go and brush up on any local customs, norms and dress codes.
Inform them of how long you’ll be in the country, this gives them the opportunity to plan any further interviews within that time frame.
The interview process goes both ways, envision yourself working there, and ask the questions you are curious about. If you make it to the final stages of the process ask if you can meet the team.
Be sure to be clear on what the job entails, the benefits, salary and time off, as they vary greatly between countries and companies. Also, be aware of what you might need to work there, certificates, references, working visa etc. before starting. Again larger companies may arrange this for you, but smaller local companies depending on the type of work may not.
Looking for a job locally
If you are visiting a country for an interview or a test run before contemplating the move, use most of your time there. Make appointments register with recruitment agencies – request in-person interviews with them. A bit of face time can make all the difference.
Go to expat groups and meet-ups, and network at the chamber of commerce, and industry events that may be on at the same time, or plan your trip to coincide with any that are taking place so you can meet expats and locals working in the country.
Meeting people and companies face to face can help to make a difference, it will also give you an idea on the jobs, work and culture.
Finally, once you have found the right opportunity and are ready to fly.
Getting the job and starting work
This is where your earlier preparation comes in handy. Before you go make sure all the required paperwork is in order.
If the job doesn’t offer live-in accommodation, you can get short-term temporary accommodation while you look for something more permanent. Airbnb is great for this.
If you plan or are undecided on whether to ship your goods overseas, my last post covers this topic in further detail.
Working overseas is an incredible experience and worth doing at least once in life. The experiences that you gain, and the people that you meet. It changes your whole perspective and creates memories that last a lifetime.
In the words of Kate Douglas Wiggin:
“There is a kind of magicness about going far away and then coming back all changed.” Kate Douglas Wiggin
To ship or not ship, your goods when moving abroad?
Deciding to move abroad is a big decision, and deciding to bring all your personal belonging with you is even bigger. This article will look at a few tips, tricks and insights that will help you in making and following through with the right decision, to ship or not ship when moving abroad.
The task itself can look and be epic, so it is not a decision we want to make lightly.
As someone who has moved abroad twelve times, and dragged all her worldly goods to five of those destinations. I’ve learnt a few things along the way. I started out, many moons ago moving and travelling abroad with just one suitcase.
But, when I ended up with a more stable job in Amsterdam 10 years later, I also bought a flat. Finally created a home, but it didn’t stop my wanderlust. I did start collecting memories of the places I visited, adding to my collection of worldly goods.
My belongings have no monetary value, but they do create an amalgamation of the many moments of my life and the places I’ve been. It’s this that travels around the world with me. Although I admit, that everything spends as much time in storage as does travelling and making a new place home.
Assuredly, there is nothing like unpacking everything again in a new country. Rediscovering it all, setting it up and like a snail in its shell, that instant feeling of home. Contentment in a box (or many boxes as the case may be).
If only we could wave a magic wand to get us and everything to our new destination. But we can’t, so here are some helpful tips and insights I’ve learnt along the way.
First, let’s be honest – not every move is going to be easy – and there are many lessons I wish I hadn’t learnt the hard way. But here we go, if you are considering shipping your personal effects, buckle up – you’re in for a ride.
Misconceptions about overseas shipping:
There is a common misconception that it is excessively expensive. While it can be true – buying a whole house full of new things is equally expensive and time-consuming. After a certain age, there will always be a selection of things that you are likely to want to keep, be it artwork, gifted items, books, memorabilia, unique furniture or photo albums.
When you ship a few boxes via FedEx or the post office they are calculated by weight, which is expensive and more likely to arrive damaged and may incur import taxes.
Costs will depend on which country you are moving to, what and how much you are moving. There are standard shipping costs per square metre, at MoveDB you can find an overview of standard routes. These costs are per container and don’t include door-to-door transport. It does give you a good estimate – and can help to set expectations.
Other sites such MoveHub site can also be helpful when it comes to country guides or when you’d like to request quotes from shipping companies.
Deciding when to ship or not ship abroad:
There are always questions you will need to ask yourself before bringing your goods with you. Before you decide, ask yourself:
How long are you going for?
If you’re going for a short term or a year, it’s unlikely to be worth it. Especially if you take into account the time, effort and money it’ll cost you.
Is it temporary with the view of becoming permanent?
If you are not 100% sure yet or have never lived in the country, do a test run for 6 months before sending for your belongings. If you have a work contract and the company is footing the bill for a few years, great – go for it. But, if you ship everything out, you aren’t going to be happy to have to go through all the effort and costs to return it, if the new location doesn’t turn out as planned.
Where are you going?
Moving from one European country to another is relatively easy, but the minute you cross into challenging jurisdictions it can vary greatly. I moved all my things to Argentina – which I wouldn’t attempt today as they are stricter now on imports. At the time, my company’s legal team took care of the paperwork, issues and fees while customs held my goods ransom. These would have been a nightmare to deal with myself.
What would you like to bring?
If it’s household and personal items, it’s ‘normally’ not much of a problem. Bigger items such as cars, antiques, and motorcycles can be challenging. Pets will depend on the country, the USA is pretty easy, and Europe is fine if they have an up-to-date Pet passport. For Australia, plan ahead – they are very strict and require long quarantines, which are an inconvenience for your pets and a costly venture.
Quick ways to get the costs down
Here are a few ways to make it more affordable. There will is always the possibility that unforeseen costs come up that you can’t avoid, so it’s always worth making sure that you have enough savings tucked away, just in case.
Here are my top tips:
Get quotes from at least three different shipping companies. It’s always good to get a selection of prices before choosing which company suits you and your budget.
Minimise what you will take before getting the quote, that way you can better estimate the costs.
If you have less than a 20ft/40ft container, ask if there is an option to share a container.
Understand what the quote covers. Most shipping companies will quote you for a full door-to-door move, including packing and unpacking. If you have more time than budget offer to pack and unpack it yourself. It saves manpower and can bring the price down.
You’ve decided to ship, now what?
Sort out all your belongings:
Sort your things into 3 categories: to give away/ donate, throw away, or ship. Do this ahead, you’ll find you have more goods than you first believe.
It’s a good idea to use your weekends ahead of the move to tackle one room at a time. It makes it manageable and you are less likely to be overwhelmed at the last minute.
Research the country you are moving to and from
Every country is different, so it’s good to know what their stance is on imports, restrictions and timelines. A shipping company will take care of some of the paperwork and will give you advice. Yet, it’s good to be clear on what they will manage and what you’ll need to do yourself. Often there are local import certificates that you will need to apply for as a local resident.
Checking local expat forums can also be helpful, if any items such as cars are being held up at customs, you’ll find people complaining about it. It’s good to be knowledgeable and prepared.
Do a rough calculation of the amount you will be shipping.
Many shipping companies have an online calculator where you can add the boxes, and furniture that you have, and it will give you a rough estimate.
Contact shipping companies for a quote.
If a company has a local branch they often will come around and do an assessment of your goods and walk through the process with you before quoting. This is a good opportunity to ask questions about what the quote includes, what your options are, and gauge their customer service levels.
When choosing the right shipping company, cheaper isn’t always better as it might result in more paperwork or damaged goods. Choose a company that is professional with a price that suits you.
When to ship
Once you’ve chosen your shipping company, you can decide whether you’ll ship it immediately, or after a set amount of time. Many shipping companies can store your goods at reasonable costs while you travel, or find a place to rent or buy.
Arrange the dates + paperwork
This will vary per person and per country. If you want your goods to arrive at the same time or soon after you arrive, and you already know your address, you can send them ahead of time. However, you might take time to find a place before settling. The shipment can take anywhere from 2 weeks to 4 months.
For example, if moving to the UK you’ll need a TOR (transfer of residence) number. To apply you’ll need to prove your residency via a proof of address, national security number and work details. Once approved you’ll receive a reference number from customs. With this, you can bring your personal belongings into the country, and it’s valid for 12 months from the day you moved to the UK.
Last points to keep in mind
Some moves, like the time I moved back to the Netherlands, were so easy despite the fact it was over 12’000 kilometres. Others, from Buenos Aires to Uruguay, which was around 100 km away were so epic I wasn’t sure I or anyone in my vicinity would survive it.
Lower your expectations and pack an extra dose of adaptability. Keep these additional tips in mind, they might not solve all the big issues, but it at least helps to prepare you before you go.
Be organised
Don’t put the important paperwork in storage. Bring it with you or ask someone to look after it and send it later. This includes mortgage papers, insurance forms, and bigger proof of purchase i.e. Car, motorbike. Passports/ birth certificates and police clearances can always be done online but it will take time before they get to you.
Make sure you label your boxes carefully. So, when you are faced with the daunting task of unpacking, you can prioritise them.
Create a number 1 items box, put in everything you think you will need before you unpack the rest, it might contain your tool kit, screws and sofa legs, remotes, teapot, etc.
Timing is everything
Know how long the shipping will take. Is there a time limit on importing personal goods when you immigrate? Make a simple timeline of the key milestones that need to be taken care of before you go, and when you arrive. This is especially important when travelling with pets, as vaccinations need to be done within a period of time. Knowing what paperwork needs to be done prior to and after the move. If it’s not done right, customs will hold your belongings, hostage, at the port – and storage at the harbour comes at a price.
Pack some common-sense
Sometimes it’s the only thing you need to travel and move with. We can resolve most everything by using common sense over getting mad and stressed.
Break it all down into bite-sized chunks
You’ll find when you see the mountain of boxes that you will want to unpack them all immediately. Which will result in a mini or mega-meltdown. If you have a spare room, put the boxes in there, that way you won’t have to face them when you wake up or go to bed. Break it down to a few boxes a day – while it will take longer, you’ll keep your sanity intact.
Breathe
There will be moments you will forget to breathe or just hold your breath hoping you’ll wake up and it will be all over. So, stop, have a cup of tea or vodka, and relax. The moment that you realise that all the boxes don’t have to be packed or unpacked within 24 hours, you’ll be fine.
It’s Epic, but it’s well worth it
Mental health professionals often list moving as one of the top 5 most stressful things you can do. And that’s for a local move, not an international one. But when the time comes to unpack everything and reconnect with your belongings, you’ll soon find yourself on distant shores, yet content and completely at home.
So, is it worth it? Totally, every mile and every cent of the way. Well, until next time, if you are anything like me, once you’re completely settled, you can start planning your next adventure. In the meantime, be sure to enjoy the one you are living.
p.s. As I write this post, I am camping out in the UK in my new flat, in my new town and waiting for my belongings to arrive from Australia – an epic journey. My belongings have now been in storage for over 18 months. And while I’ve loved my travels and adventures, I can’t wait to be reunited with everything.
Shrewsbury is a quaint medieval town, that made it onto my hit list of potential places to live here in the UK. This was largely due to the accolades it received from Londoners who’d made the move, housing prices and location. It didn’t seem like much of a hard sell.
Yet, it is always wise before seriously considering settling into a new country or city to visit and spend some time there, even if only for a few days. You need to see the place first hand, does it live up to your expectations, as you view it through the eyes of a potential future resident.
While there is much I enjoyed about my visit to Shrewsbury. The reality is that I couldn’t see myself living there long-term. This is of course a brisk assessment – I know many people who have made the move and love it.
The decision on whether a place suits you or not is personal. It depends on your style, requirements and history. This is why it’s important to know yourself, and what you are looking for.
Even though I won’t be spending the rest of my life there, I did really enjoy my time there. It’s a great city to escape to for a weekend, with its rich history, gorgeous Tudor buildings, tasty food and ample space for riverside wanderings.
There are hotels in Shrewsbury. But if you are keen on a local experience a lot of pubs rent out rooms upstairs. This is ideal for an authentic old-English experience that leaves a lasting memory.
Thankfully, a few old alehouses have also evolved. Back in the day a typical pub had wall-to-wall carpet, partnered with the nose-curling stench of beer, to create a multi-sensory overload of the most nauseating kind.
Now, there is a subset of bars that have modernized themselves, sharing the older Tudor-style building, but in a cleaner, stylish setting.
Boutique Pubs at their Finest
I stayed at The Loopy Shrew: A fresh take, modern furniture and design in a country chic setting. Located in the centre of town, with everything within walking distance. The only downside is the photos on the website were taken with a fish-eye lens, giving the mistaken impression that the rooms are more spacious.
On the upside, the service and staff were friendly. And the room included a real English breakfast. A real cooked breakfast of Eggs Florentine (my fav), Full English Breakfast among others. Hands down, one of the best hotel breakfasts I’ve had in a while.
The Lion + Pheasant is also a boutique up-market pub that meets B&B, ideal for anyone with a taste for comfort and design.
Eating out in Shrewsbury
Travelling while attempting to go gluten-free has its challenges. I thought Japanese was a safe bet but was wrong – and in a smaller city exotic food can be a bit of a mistake. So, my first night’s dinner was a tad mediocre.
To counter that, there are I found a few better restaurants with a gluten-free menu. Jacques Bistro has typical French fare at decent prices, it’s open all day and offers great pre-theatre specials and a decent set menu.
Loch Fyne is a welcome treat. The food is local or sustainably sourced from the Scottish Highlands. So fresh it melts in your mouth and the service was second to none. It is popular with the locals and regulars and is located in the centre of town.
Lion + Pheasant is also a popular and recommendable choice. It is upmarket, with small portions – but well worth it for the quality and flavour. The atmosphere was great, and the food was phenomenal.
The city does have some stellar restaurants, but I did feel after a few nights to be running out of options. Especially considering my desire to go gluten-free.
If I were eating gluten I would have liked to try the Dough + Oil as it looked like it had handcrafted sourdough pizza. In the end, when you’ve run out of places to eat, it might be time to move on.
Things to see and do in Shrewsbury
There is a good calendar of events happening in Shrewsbury. Everything from beer to folk festivals. I imagine the place turning into a mini-metropolis at those times. The city has an impressive new theatre complex. A small historic castle worth visiting. With plenty more to see and do on the tourist route, you can find more details here.
As I only had one free day and two working days to see the place, I opted for a walking tour and a scenic stroll along the river. It is along the river at Quarry park that you’ll also find an incredible small garden called ‘The Dingle’. Bursting at the seams with flowers, trees and benches it’s the ideal spot to spend some time.
Not sure if there had recently been a flower festival in the city, as everywhere you look there are flowers. Flowers in the windowsills, flowers along the walkways, flowers hanging on shop fronts. Stunning.
Wandering back through Shrewsbury’s past
Another point of interest outside top of the fact it has over 660 listed historic buildings. Is that Charles Darwin was born and grew up in Shrewsbury.
As a result, you’ll find everything from rocks to restaurants named after him. You can see his statue at the library or visit his place of birth.
The old town encircled by the Severn River lends itself to aimless wandering. The city shows a range of architectural styles from classic Tudor, Victorian, and Edwardian to modern eyesores of the industrial era.
Being on the border of Wales made the town a hub for the wool industry. You can see this early wealth reflected back in the quality of the early Tudor buildings.
It was also due to its location that it was at the forefront of regional disputes between Wales and England.
The Market Hall, a Hub of Creativity
When you get tired of strolling around town, the Market Hall is well worth a visit. It is one of my favourite places. You can sit down and grab a spot for lunch or do a spot of shopping. You will find fresh vegetables, vintage stalls, books, stalls selling wool or those that feature local artists. A vibrant creative hub of activity.
Getting out of town
If you have a car, you might even want to follow the trail of what they say is the real king Arthur. Which legend has, does exist and happens to be from the local area. Ludlow and Wreham are close by and also have a rich history and colourful past and are worthy of a visit.
Being as it is Shrewsbury is also still today the gateway into Wales, you can catch trains up to Holyhead, or down to Cardiff and the start of the well-known Snowdonia park is but a short drive away.
Whatever your interest in Shrewsbury and the surrounding area, it is a great place to wander and spend a long weekend or dawdle away a few weeks.
What My Epic Expat Failure Taught me
Lessons disguised as hard knocks
When planning to move abroad we never know how it will turn out. There are moments in life when it is a far cry from what we expected or planned. Yet, does it mean we are an expat failure?
In a world where anything is possible. Where happiness, success and riches are the name of the game – and is what most people strive for.
What do we do when reality throws us more than a curve ball? When reality walks up and slaps us in the face with a slimy dead fish before it kicks the feet out from under us.
Not all moves abroad and adventures end in big success stories. Some grind us through painful lessons in the international school of hard knocks.
In a world where anything is possible, failure is possible too. Rather than deem it a failure, I’d rather file these under “big fat lessons” I learned along the way.
The icing on these lessons is that these are learnt in exotic places. In foreign strange languages, all while eating excessive amounts of ice cream. So in theory, these lessons earn buckets more kudos than lessons learned at home on the sofa.
Here are is one of my misadventures, and painful lessons I learned the hard way. Lessons in accepting on of my short lived attempts to acclimatize and settle in abroad:
The Big Farewell
One fated evening many moons ago – I found myself in a deep discussion with a friend. I was in the middle of celebrating my final nights in London. New adventures on foreign shores were calling my name…
I was moving to China, and high on the possibilities. The big wide sea of possibilities that lay before me, like a blank page awaiting a scribbling pen.
Anything as always is possible.
In this conversation with ‘Miss Wise’ (alias used to protect the innocent), I found doubts streaming uncensored from my mouth. Could I do it, what if I failed? What if it didn’t work out? What if I had to face all these friends again after such a big going away party.
Her oh so – wise words – echo still in the recesses of my mind. They come up to join me on the odd occasion when doubt threatens to overwhelm me.
“Michelle, not one of the people here would be sorry to see you again – they’d welcome you back in a second”.
She then went on to tell me a story. A sad story of a friend that had moved out to the Greek Islands with a big send off. When he got ill, he was too embarrassed to come home. And thanks to that pride and unwillingness to admit defeat he died there, alone. She made me promise if it wasn’t working out, if I got sick, broke or unhappy to come back. Come back to where I would always be welcome.
Yet Timing is Everything
Later, as I recalled that fatal moment and the promises I made to her. It didn’t make admitting my defeat and return any easier.
In retrospect, I should have heeded her words earlier. I hesitated, and as in love in war, those that hesitate are lost. Hence, I returned to London with no money. I spent the first day and night at the airport. Too broke, ashamed and devastated to even let anyone know I had returned. Too proud to ask for help.
Living in China wasn’t the dream I had imagined. I found the language impossible to learn. People stared at me in the street. It was an alien world, and I was the alien.
A world that I could never integrate into. I would never feel at home in. Relegated to forever being an outsider.
The work promised to me was not at all what I thought it to be, my money ran out and the rest is history. The dream dissolved and turned into a nightmare. I couldn’t make any of it work, nor could I leave the country.
I was stuck.
Time to Put your ego aside
I am even more ashamed at the lengths I had to go to, to leave the country. Which I am not going to recount for fear that it will give people ideas. But let’s say, a human angel lent a hand. They spoke to the airline, who then with great ado, repented and changed my ticket.
There are angels out there. It didn’t change the fact that life was tough for a while. So tough it would bend steel.
But hey, let’s get real, everyone somewhere at sometime has had moments like these. It is these moments that define us. We don’t wallow, we recognize it, suck it up, and get on with it.
You can deal with the fall out later.
At what we’ll call the end of the saga, my friend in all her wisdom was right. My friends were happy to see me and after a few initial setbacks, surrounded by my friends, life went on.
I’ve gone on to live through many more sagas. I have lived in many countries, and failed many more times. I still find myself onboard the roller coaster of an adventure we call life.
And while this self-inflicted disaster was what I would deem an epic FAIL (yes in capitals), I also learnt a lot:
Lesson 1: Research the Country you are Moving to
Just because you know your way around a Chinese menu, and you excel at the use of chopsticks doesn’t mean your going to be an expert in all things Chinese. It would have been useful if I had attempted to learn the language before going.
Investigated what city would have been more suitable. Looked into the quality of life, how to they see and relate to foreigners. There is so much you can look into and do, there are expat sites and forums, and so much you can find online.
In all honesty I was in China so long ago the internet… yes friends, it was that long ago. How the world has changed – and how much more I research now before I go!
Lesson 2: Getting the Timing right
This is an uber important lesson in life in general. Timing is everything and yet it is one of the toughest things to guesstimate.
Plan your finances. Calculate how much everything actually costs vs. how much you expected it would cost.
Moving to a new city, or country has a lot of upfront costs. From hotels, flats, and general living costs before you find or start a job. If you rent a flat, you’ll need a deposit, a month up front, utility bills. These things can all add up and can be more than you planned for.
If you decide to leave earlier than expected and you have rented and apartment. You are also going to have to give notice, cancel utilities which takes time, and can often come at a price.
Be sure to keep track of it all.
Calculate of how long your money will last? Do you have a credit card you can use if needed, and do you have someone to help you out? What is the deadline for finding a job?
There is a certain amount of time that you have to make it work, know what it is and plan for it.
Life abroad in even the cheapest of places can cost more than expected. Keep an eye on where you are at in the journey and be prepared to time it right. Sitting down once and a while and reassessing the current status with a calculator and pen and paper is necessary.
That way, when or if the day comes that you realise it’s not working out, and if all of your best laid intentions fail you’ll have a plan:
Lesson 3. Have a plan B and be Flexible
Or C, or D – flexibility, adaptability are traits that come in handy. If you don’t find work, can you do a work exchange. If one city isn’t right is there any other one that might be more suitable.
Can you work online? stay with friends? there are always plenty of possibilities, and there are times we need to be more creative with our options and in uncovering what they might be.
If B, C, D fail is there another country nearby or can you move back home, in with friends, get a live in job or to a previous country you lived in?
Again anything is possible. Combinations and choices are infinite, be ready to turn on a dime deal with the situation head on as it arises.
Lesson 4: Is this the right culture for you?
While some Cultures might be Fascinating, it doesn’t mean you can live in them. For me, as a shy social recluse the idea of having everyone stare at me in the street is appalling. Which was part of the everyday in China.
The language was a big challenge. At the time it was unusual for Chinese and Westerners to mingle.
One of the things I like most about living in a new country is getting to know the culture. To learn the language and feel like a local. In China, at the time I found this a challenge.
I didn’t want to be an expat ‘EXPAT’, always a foreigner. When I live abroad I need to be able to feel at home.
It was a moment of self awareness when I realised how much I need to be able to settle in and feel at home. At the same time I recognised that would never happen in China the culture while interesting, wasn’t me.
Every End is a new beginning
There isn’t really an end to our adventures, after one, another one soon follows. We continue along out path, be it quick, rich or educational.
I am not sure about you, but despite my epic fails. Of which my attempt to move to China was just one of many. It made my life richer, and somehow more lived.
And in the words of a one wise man, when I shared that all I wanted to do was to find a place to call home. He laughed and said:
‘You’re a wanderer, you travel, you live abroad it’s what you do. Get used to it’.
Really, that’s life isn’t it? Accepting who we are, and where we are at in our journey.
Failure is all about how we define it. My moves are not failures but rich lessons, epic adventures, and all in all, make my life ‘a life worth living’.
My message to you – if it’s not working out: what lesson are you learning and what new adventure is waiting for you? and a brief reminder, that I mean it when I say:
York certainly has its charming aspects and unbeknownst to me, is on the top of most peoples list of places to visit. Which is the likely reason it is still to this day overrun by wild hordes
Once upon a time, it would have been a thriving trade centre, there are remnants of the age of Romans and Viking Britain throughout the city.
Now, if you are anything like me, you don’t travel to hang out with tourists, no matter what era they’re from.
So, while there are excessive amounts of visitors, and out-of-towners, there are also some quieter areas to be found, if you know where to look.
How to avoid the Pillaging Hordes
My top tip would be to visit York in the depth of winter, on a freezing Tuesday morning at the crack of dawn.
Failing that option, visiting during the week can be less painful and staying out of town is a cracking choice.
Quieter places can also be found around the outside of the city centre. Walking the city’s walls, and away from the smaller shopping streets or the city’s gardens.
The quietest places, I found were the bookshops, odd exhibition centres, smaller churches and back streets.
Setting the Medieval Scene
The city itself is magical, a defensive wall still surrounds the city. It was first built by the Romans and reinforced by the Vikings. Then the Normans built it into the wall that we see and can walk on today.
It gives you a bird’s eye view of the city. It also gives you a feel of what it might have been like back in the day.
The York Minister is a stunning example of Gothic architecture and the largest of its kind in Northern Europe. It looms over the city with timeless grandeur.
Old wooden Tudor buildings line the streets, and The shambles are so beyond quaint it’s almost postcard perfect.
In times of old this would have been the market and butchers area, and a thriving social hub.
As for the inhabitants of this bustling market town. There seemed to be groups of rowdy slightly tipsy drunken Northern blokes.
I had to chuckle as I wandered imagining myself back in the time of the Vikings. Really these lads are just following in the footsteps of their ancestors, albeit in tighter pants, which may be why there is less plundering…
And the new weapon of choice is of course the cell phone. Aimed, deadly and ready to use at the drop of a hat. It seems times haven’t changed too much.
What to see and Do in York
You might think that it’s unlikely that you’ll be robbed by a Viking in this day and age, but beware you will be parted with your cash at every opportunity.
Visiting some of the attractions can feel like they are inflicting daylight robbery. This list includes the ever-famous York Minister church at £11.50, while attractions and museums range between £4.00 – £12.00
It does all start to add up, if you plan to visit a lot of places you might be best buying a York day pass at the tourist information or online starting from £45.
You can also get the Jorvik passport for £20. This gets you into five attractions and a few of those like the Dig cater more to kids…
If the prices make you baulk, there are also free walking tours that are put on by volunteers, it’s a two-hour tour and covers most of the important aspects of the city.
Travelling back to the Age of Vikings
I skipped the museums, and attractions, but got the Jorvik Pastport and visited the Jorvik Viking Centre, which I enjoyed. It is super ideal for kids and put together in an entertaining fashion. Despite the fact, rides or being shepherded isn’t my cuppa tea.
The upside that I did enjoy is the museum area, where I was fascinated by the items found at the site, such as the shoes, jewellery, combs, coins and craft materials.
This shows that the city was an active market settlement at the time, and its inhabitants did a lot more than raiding.
On top of this, I went to the Henry VII and Richard III experiences.
It was a confusing time in English History, as I try to make sense of which Henry was which and who was trying to kill who…
A medieval soap opera as its finest.
The exceptional part of these exhibitions was the chats with the volunteers, if you do visit make sure you stop for a yarn, they are a wealth of information.
There was also the Magic exhibition at Barley Hall, which I liked due to my fascination with all things magic. The building itself was great – although you won’t find me raving or writing home about it.
The Shambles Market in the centre of town is also worth a visit, here you will find a surprising amount of Harry Potter-like magic shops. I believe this is due to some of the scenes being filmed on, or the set based on these same characterful streets.
Which explains why it’s become one of England’s most instagramable streets… the crowds were enough to deter me, and why I got no photo of it at all.
Another good reason it’s good to get out of town. Instead, you can go and visit Castle Howard, one of the most stunning castles in England, or lose yourself in England’s only Fairy Sanctuary.
Where to stay and eat
Finding the right place to stay can make or break a trip, do you want to leave the front door and be in the middle of it all?
Or escape the city and get away from it all, which is what I did, and why I chose to head out to the farm, a hop, skip and short bus ride away.
Staying here without a doubt was the highlight of my trip to York, and its excessively good reviews are well deserved. From the initial communication prior to my trip all the way to dropping me off at the bus stop at the end – it was perfect.
The room I had was beyond lovely, comfortable and chic – overlooking the large tree filled with birdsong, and a flower-filled garden.
What makes a great stay in the details, from a wide choice of herbal teas, and biscuits. To a selection of Natural Bath Salts, that were put to go used after walking around York for more than 6 hours.
To top is all off there was also a choice of breakfasts, either the typical English breakfast made with country fresh ingredients or an omelette of your choosing. Totally delicious!
The hosts really go above and beyond, and it was a smart move to stay there – away from the crowds. I know where to go next time I need to escape the city and get some well-needed sleep, fresh air and R&R.
Despite being in the countryside, there are a few places to eat nearby. Gio’s Italian Diner is cost-effective and promises to ‘Make your tummy smile’.
On the same road is also an outstanding Restaurant ‘Thai Season’. I’ve not had a Kao Soy for a while, but it was first class – and highly recommended.
There are no restaurants or cafes I can recommend in the city itself. It was all too crowded for me, even the cafés had a queue and long waiting times.
I loathe queuing at the best of times, and spending time in line for a cuppa tea, isn’t me. I would not queue if they were flown in from China and served up in a gold cup by the queen of England herself…
In Summary…
My expectations for York were likely fairly high as it’s been on the top of my list of places to visit for a long time and hence sorry to say, it didn’t quite meet my expectations.
When travelling, it’s best to leave your expectations at home, I know – but we all fall into this trap once in a while.
If you love being on the main tourist trail, and you’d like to visit one of the most popular cities in England. Then this is the right place for you.
Just come with time, patience and a credit card.
If not, there are plenty of other equally beautiful medieval cities in England that are less busy and also worth visiting. Or simply opt for the easy route, head out to the countryside and visit Mohair Farm for a few days and enjoy time passing at a slower, more relaxing pace.
The Vikings were avid farmers. We can find as many traces of their lives in the steady work that goes on in the country, in the home-brewed craft ale and home-cooked food that is served up alongside typical countryside hospitality.
William Morris’s Red House: Medieval Meet Bohemianism
Bohemian Treasure in Bexleyheath
Isn’t it super when you stumble upon a historically fascinating hot spot in the most unexpected of places? You can turn up somewhere unplanned – like I am now, house sitting in Bexley – look up what there to do nearby.
And voila sometimes – not always but sometimes – you score a winner.
This is exactly what happened when I realized that William Morris’s Red house was around the corner from where I am currently staying. Now I have to confess I wasn’t completely sure who Will Morris is/ was… until…
Until I saw the designs and wallpaper and recognized them immediately.
His designs are legendary and recognized by all, sold by Liberty and Sanderson’s.
Either which way the Red House was one that he bought in Bexleyheath in the 1800s and worked with the builders on the design to create a family home with the medieval style and theme that he was so fond of.
Since then the house has changed hands, some parts have been painted over, however much of his inbuilt furniture and a few paint and design features remain.
Medieval Village Mayhem
Like the man, Mr. Morris’s creative bohemian style would have raised an eyebrow or two in the late 1800’s – my tour guide filled us in on the late nights, loud parties and apple fights.
All of which caused a bit of a raucous back in the day, which ultimately led to the family moving back up to London.
It’s a little more tranquil in the house and gardens today. The National Trust now owns the house, which gives us all the opportunity to visit the house and gardens.
A Tour led by volunteers worth taking –
As with many National trust buildings, there is often a tour available that is part of the entrance fee. While I am not a tour type of person – I do love to hear the stories, especially that you would otherwise not find out about by wandering about by yourself.
Some of the furniture was made especially for the house, and hence certainly makes a statement. It’s a quirky place with lots of creative details that add to the character and charm. All the while, William Morris’s own personality and beliefs are embodied in the walls and even in the ceiling.
His idea of painting by holes, that were made into patterns to prove that you don’t need to be an artist to paint and create a design worthy space. Something that we can still see reflected in the simplicity yet almost Nordic designs in the house today. Perhaps IKEA took a page from his book.
The walls of the manor also proudly display his love of stories, myths and forgone days of chivalry, romance and friends.
The Man was and remains a Creative Legend
While I might not have known who he was when I started the day, I certainly knew him by the end of it. His house, his heart and inspiring creative spirit lives on here in the UK as does his style.
Surely, you also recognize his furnishings, wallpaper and timeless designs. The man himself is a National Treasure.
To uncover similar gems in the National trust house throughout the UK, you can find them on the National Trusts website.
P.s. I also visited Halls House and Gardens in Bexley, the gardens are free and highly recommended, the house perhaps is worth a visit with kids. For me on this occasion, I didn’t think it was worth the price.
Is there be such a thing as London Tube Etiquette?
Do we need Etiquette on the Tube?
* Disclaimer: Political incorrectness ahead – abort here if you are prone to snowflake tendencies…
There is email, driving, texting and swimming pool etiquette – but I’ve yet to see tube etiquette in action. 2 million people a day are squeezing into a spacious tin can. Surely we can agree the situation calls for a smidgen of manners.
Once upon a time in a more civilized society (a society that drinks tea and queues for buses) there once existed unsung rules. But these rules for the underground were not handed down through the generations to those that ride the tube today.
Instead, these invisible rules lurk in the depths of the underground, keeping the remnants of the plague company.
New Era calls for new Rules and Tube Etiquette
Must we make some new rules? We’ll base them our collective misery and daily commuting annoyances thus far. Rules such as:
#1 No Eating or Drinking in the Carriage
Everyone eyes the person clinging to their freshly brewed coffee precariously. The other day I spotted a woman accidentally spill her takeaway coffee all over herself. Thankfully there was now less coffee in the world to land on me. While I’ve not had coffee spilt on me (YET), I have had yogurt flicked all over me.
Not impressed; I was so appalled I didn’t know how to react. What is the etiquette in this situation, I wondered? Should I call them out?
Comfort them by saying sorry? as though its OK to flick yogurt all over my suit jacket anytime. Do you smile and pretend it never happened.
Or do what comes naturally? My reaction was honest. The horror in my face spoke so loudly, words could never have done the look justice.
Mentally I slapped them upside the head. I wondered why anyone would eat something so messy and impossible to open on an overcrowded underground carriage….
Sure, reasons may exist– but if you are going to spill shit, then please like the mysterious coffee woman, be kind enough to spill it all over yourself.
#2 Throwing up
The only thing worse than seeing someone eat on the tube is the regurgitation of the aforementioned food.
Are there times this might be OK. Perhaps in a moment of motion sickness? No, not really, there is nothing that makes it acceptable.
I can say in all honesty that nothing grosses me out more. If you see a superhero tearing out of the carriage at the speed of light – that’ll be me.
If you are feeling ill, faint or not well – please get off the train. Ask for help… I am sure it’s going to happen sometimes, but it sure does happen more than it should.
#3 The Mobile Phone Stagger
Remember the old cowboy movies? A man would get down off his horse with a bottle of Whiskey in one hand and a gun in the other – staggering across the dusty road.
Nowadays rushing from the tube in the vain attempt to get to work in time, is that a drunken cowboy you see before you?
No, it’s some schmuck who hasn’t finished watching TV on their mobile or texting a friend. Checking an email, that will doubtlessly explode into a fiery hell if not read slowly at this exact moment in time.
This staggering numchuck will take up all the space. There is no way past them to the left, or right, over or under. They exist in a parallel universe where only their mobile exists.
#4 Pushing, Shoving and Being Nasty
Every day there are injustices taking place in the world when I see someone get the absolute hump on the tube, I almost laugh out loud.
First world problem – don’t take life so personally. The fact that you’ve taken out all your anger on another person in such a small space is just going to piss you off and everyone else in the vicinity too.
Sure we all feel like yelling, screaming and smacking someone in the head – luckily most of us control these urges. Do us all a favour and control it too.
# 5 Man spreading… taking up space
While there is even a ‘scientific explanation’, according to mainstream media, there is still no excuse for it.
If like me, you are a foreigner and are new to the term man spread, I want to let you know, it’s not something you smear on your toast. It is as it sounds, men taking up space.
You know, like animals do when in an aggressive stance. Animals do this to make themselves bigger, scarier, it helps them feel more confident. While it may work for animals, in the real world it comes across as arrogant and greedy.
We all know the seats are small, anyone who has sat between two 300 pounders can attest to that. So let’s just stick to the space we have, and not spread ourselves around more than we need to.
# 6 Respect the elderly (anyone older than you)
London Transport has taken a step to help those that are pregnant with a ‘Baby onboard’ badge. You can also get a “Please give me a seat’ badge if disable or have a mental health condition. Not sure if you can apply when the tube is driving you mad…
Yet, there is no ‘Get the f&%k up, I’m old’ badge, which is a good idea as people are not very forthcoming with their seats.
No one looks up from their phone or book long enough to gauge someone’s age. Let alone kindly give up their seat.
I remember a time when we were taught to respect anyone older than ourselves and to give up your seat. Those days are well past, it’s never too late to give up your seat, and show a bit of respect.
#7 Don’t throw yourself under the train
Listen, life’s a bitch – and it’s a bitch for us all. You were not singled out for some special shit pie. You throwing yourself under the train is not only something the driver needs to live with forever. It also holds up all other trains, transit and passengers. Late to work, or worse held up on the way home, stressed and annoyed, even more than we need to be.
TIP: If, my little pep talk hasn’t talked you off the platform. At least, Find a driver that has at least run over two other people. I heard, that if a driver has had three strikes he’s out. He can retire early and never have to work again. Very sad, but true.
Please don’t throw yourself under the train…
One rule that does exist that we can break:
“The vow to never ever make eye contact ever”.
Do people avoid eye contact so they don’t see that 110-year-old lady that needs a seat? By keeping all eyes on their phone – even if sitting in the priority seat – they can avoid getting up.
Looking someone in the eye reminds you that they are another human being. This is the last thing the people want as they push, shove and crush anyone in their path to a seat.
Once they have their seat they won’t give it up lightly – whatever the social norms.
Today, integrity ebbs away and people know the best course of action yet decline to act upon it.
Research has shown that if one person stands up to a thief, bully or injustice others follow. Yet, it also works the other way around.
Early in my commute, I spotted someone who remained standing and giving up the seat to others purposefully. In the midst of all the raucous and chaos, they stood out like a Zen master in a storm – a Yoda of the underground.
Totally suffered a fangirl crush – I was in awe.
I finally experienced the side effect of kindness. Scientific research has shown that when you are kind to others you not only get a shot of feel-good endorphins but so does everyone else around you.
Now, while you may still see me diving head first into a seat, if and when these rare beasts are available. Now and again I also strive for a bit of inner zen and stand up to give others the opportunity to sit.
In doing so, I may have even caught a few peoples eye, an odd smile and nod of the head. Kindness is eternal, and no matter where you are, or who you are – let it travel with you – it goes a long way.
minutes outside Dufftown. On the other hand, the Convals can be accessed from Dufftown, with the path beginning at the rear of the Golf course. For more information on the various walks in the area, a local map is available for download.
This story is just that, every day that reaches out and touches us profoundly. It’s a moving story, based on true events around the death of a boy’s father and the effect it has on the family.
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One fated evening many moons ago – I found myself in a deep discussion with a friend. I was in the middle of celebrating my final nights in London. New adventures on foreign shores were calling my name…
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Despite being in the countryside, there are a few places to eat nearby. 
Until I saw the designs and wallpaper and recognized them immediately.
Some of the furniture was made especially for the house, and hence certainly makes a statement. It’s a quirky place with lots of creative details that add to the character and charm. All the while, William Morris’s own personality and beliefs are embodied in the walls and even in the ceiling.
Everyone eyes the person clinging to their freshly brewed coffee precariously. The other day I spotted a woman accidentally spill her takeaway coffee all over herself. Thankfully there was now less coffee in the world to land on me. While I’ve not had coffee spilt on me (YET), I have had yogurt flicked all over me.
Yet, there is no ‘Get the f&%k up, I’m old’ badge, which is a good idea as people are not very forthcoming with their seats.
seat? By keeping all eyes on their phone – even if sitting in the priority seat – they can avoid getting up.